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CHI 2019 Recap Part 4: “Having it all” or How I can be a mother while attending CHI

This is a continuation of my series of blogs recapping CHI 2019. You can catch up with the first blog, if you missed it, and the second blog on self-care at conferences, and the third blog on the social impact of our research. In this final blog of my CHI 2019 series, I wanted to answer a Frequently Asked Question: “How are you managing being at CHI with kids?”

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The short answer: Not easily. It’s hard. It’s expensive. I have to make tough choices.

The longer answer: I was fortunate enough to be one of the inaugural postdocs to get a grant from Northwestern that helped cover the cost of my mother’s plane ticket. This grant was to help postdocs who have dependents still attend conferences. It’s meant to cover costs such as a caregiver at home or for a child or caregiver to travel with. My daughter is still nursing and has never taken a bottle, no matter how much convincing we try to do. So, we made the choice that she comes with me on my overnight trips until she’s ready to not do that anymore.

What does this mean, really? That every time I want to travel, my daughter comes with. But if I am presenting or trying to network, I’m also looking for childcare. It’s difficult to be watching a running toddler while networking at cocktail hours or staying out late at dinners or after-dinner drinks. So, for a long international trip like CHI in Glasgow, I bring my mother who gets to spend time with her granddaughter while I’m off networking, going to workshops, and giving presentations. I will be real and tell you that this wasn’t an ideal set-up, but compared to the wrangling and horrible experiences of going to onsite job interviews with her as a 5 month old, CHI looked like cake.

I’ve learned to make tough choices. Do I go to this dinner or an afternoon session? Do I skip the morning in order to be able to stay out later that night? Do I bring the toddler to the poster session in order to give my mother a break? Much like other people who have accessibility issues or other needs, I have to prioritize what is most important to get out of a conference and not feel guilty or like I missed out on all the rest. And this is above and beyond the fact that I do have my own set of physical needs and accessibility issues. I learned very early on in my PhD that taking care of myself was the most important part and then prioritizing everything else after that.

I’ve also come to rely on the support not just of my own family, but of the wider network of Academic Mamas. I’m part of a large Facebook group, and many smaller groups as well. These women have really helped me figure out how to navigate the sometimes challenging and strange waters that is academic life.

My daughter is going to be done nursing soon. There will be a time, probably in the not so distant future, that I will miss these moments I got to spend with my children while they were young. While doing my research well and hopefully getting a job this coming year are important to me, I do have to stop and recognize that these moments will not be here forever.

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And I also would like to take this moment to recognize that this is very hard. Being a full time postdoc, going on the academic job market again, and being a mom to two young children is supremely challenging. I relish the challenge. But I want to say to other Academic Moms who might be reading this: I see you. This is hard work. Take a moment to appreciate yourself and all that you do for your little ones.

CHI 2019 Recap Part 2: Importance of Self-Care and Community Care

This is a continuation of my series of blogs recapping CHI 2019. You can catch up with the first blog, if you missed it. For this week’s blog, I am focusing on the importance of care. This takes many forms, but for this short blog, I’ll be honing in on self-care and community care. Both of these are about taking care of the individual, but one (self-care) implies the individual is taking care of themselves and the other (community care) implies that the group as a whole is making space and watching out for the individuals.

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Self-Care

Conferences are hard. They are taxing on the body both physically and emotionally. CHI 2019 took place in Glasgow, Scotland. This means that many of the community experienced some kind of jet lag. And this is the case for every conference. Some people will be experiencing jet lag and the other effects of having to travel long distances. Then when you get to the conference, there are thousands of people. Rooms are crowded, halls are noisy, many people are consuming alcohol at evening functions. Through all of this, early career scholars are expected to show up, be engaging, and network like mad. Conferences are hard.

My advisor, Gillian Hayes, gave the best advice before my first conference. It’s okay to not go to every session. It’s okay to skip certain events. Quality over quantity. Take care of yourself. Save your energy for those key interactions that you need to further your career, your research, or your learning. As is the case with all of academia, learn to say no to things. To that end, I’ve learned that I would rather save a bit more money at home in order to be able to stay at a hotel closer to the conference or to be able to order in room service for a night when I just can’t face going out to eat one more time. I realize that that is steeped in privilege. Conferences are not only hard, but they are expensive – CHI especially so. My only rationale is that my moments at CHI, having quality interactions with people, will help further my career in incalculable ways. I’m banking on it, and whether this will actually pay off in a tenure track job in the long run remains to be seen.

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In summary: Take care of yourself before, during, and after a big (or small) conference. Listen to your body. Focus on quality interactions over quantity.

Bonus tip for students: Make a list of 5-10 people you would really like to meet or touch-base with while at the conference. Focus on that list and make those your quality interactions. You’ll thank your tired self later.

Community Care

This one is a little trickier. As I’ve said, conferences are hard. We can all help make each other’s conference experience better. I will get into the larger, organizational issues of these big conferences like CHI in my next blog post, but for now I will focus on the community-on-the-ground. This could be simple things like, if you’re chatting with people, try to get out of the way so you can all hear each other and you aren’t in the way of those trying to get through. Maybe this looks like simply not guilting people into going to the late parties or finding safe spaces for women and other marginalized community members. This also means accepting help when others offer it (an important part of self-care!). I’ve seen a lot of positive movement in this area, especially at CHI. But, of course, there is always room for improvement and we should strive to find ways to help each other out.

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CHI can be a wonderful experience if done right. I have had conference experiences where I’ve just felt ill the entire time and ended up not getting much out of it. I then I have to ask myself why I spent money to even go in the first place (because let’s be real, as a student or postdoc, you’re losing money even if you’re getting reimbursed).  But I’m happy to say that prioritizing my own self-care and looking out for others has really improved my overall CHI experience. I hope these tips are helpful for you as you plan your next conference trip!

Resource List – Making Presentations Accessible

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I’ve been compiling a list of useful links on how to make a presentation accessible. The top tips are:

  1. Use Sans Serif font larger than 28 pts.
  2. Use colors that are high contrast (e.g., black font on white background).
  3. Limit moving and crazy transitions (good for those prone to motion sickness in the room).
  4. Use alt text for all images, graphics, and videos within the presentation in order for the screen reader to be able to access the information. (And don’t put key information only in a graphic with no alt text!!)

will update the list as I find more resources. Feel free to share your favorite accessibility resources in the comments below!

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